I know mine is located on the right hand side of my tranny if you are under the truck with your head under the bell housing. It's a small circular silver part that's about 2 1/2 inches in diameter, and has (i think) one small branch coming out the side where the vacuum tubing would attach. I know mine is very easy to change out, and the part is only like $14.00 . There's only one bolt that I need to remove to get it off. I've seen waaaayyy too much of my transmission in the past month.

Anyway, that's the one of the things that popped into my head when you said it didn't shift right. From all of the people i've talked to that's one of the things that came out of their mouths first, that and of course, the fluid level, but I doubt that's your problem.
Tombraiderluvr
Don't come between me and my truck..lol.